December 30

Tight Pants, Loose Change and Resolution Refrain

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Ohhh, the holidays. That joyous time of year that floods the shopping malls with only the kindest of folk. The time of year that has me digging around for an even more elastic-y pair of elastic stretch pants.

Only one of those two sentences has truth to it.

Every year I ask Santa for a slim waistline and a fat bank account, and every year he gets it all mixed up. But is it really Santa’s fault?! Or is it my own for shoving all those extra chocolates and perogies and ham and meatballs and those cute little cocktail wieners into my face that I didn’t need. No need for me to insert a sick joke here, I’m sure you’ve already thought it.

Every action has a consequence. Mine is puffiness around the mid region… and quite frankly, there is nothing Santa can do about it.

(But seriously though, I did get to spend the holidays with a ton of people I love tremendously, so that trumps the stretchy pants.)

gymAnd so comes the New Year. A real time for change, right? Another chance at bringing to fruition all that I (and you) want. Hooray!

But,

A change in numbers doesn’t mean change, unless you are a calendar.  It doesn’t mean a promise of better things to come.  Change only comes from a change in attitude and inspired action. You have this opportunity in every new moment – which is basically, well – all the time.

A ‘new year’ sounds great and all, and sure it gives that refreshed and brand newish feeling – albeit a fleeting one – but don’t sit around and wait for the stroke of midnight. Every moment is a new one, regardless of what year it is. And not to sound totally morbid, but do any of us even know if we are going to live through 2014?! Nope. If you aren’t six feet under, the moment is always ripe.

I stopped making typical new year’s resolutions a while ago. Fuck the plans to save more money, lose weight, etc etc.

Why? Because you don’t know what life is going to throw at you! Last year, I could have sworn by this time this year – I’d be running my own retail business and more financially stable.

Instead, life threw other surprises my way. But as for the good times, I did I find myself couch surfing and castle hopping in Germany, sipping cervasas on sail boats and working in the film industry. None of my year was anything like I thought it would be. I managed to do almost the complete opposite of everything I was ‘planning’ to do. And I enjoyed every single minute of it. I didn’t sit around and wait for the right moment to come along. Instead, I grabbed opportunities by the balls and some of them led me on down paths I never thought I had. Even all the perceived ‘bad’ shit helped with that, too.

Obviously not every change happens over night. Would I way rather be backpacking across somewhere in Central America right now? Oh hell yeah. That’s not going to happen tomorrow with the current state of my bank account. But the point is, is that when you decide to be conscious of the moment, doors you didn’t even expect will open. And some others may shut. You really don’t know where life is going to take you.

I have one goal and one goal only – that is to appreciate everything… whether it’s the extra five bucks to buy a coffee or 50 for a night out. With gratitude comes happiness, and with happiness comes opportunity, and when you are in that zone, things like losing weight and attracting cool shit comes far more naturally.

So rather than setting up all these ridiculous resolutions that last for 72 hours and set you up for frustration and failure, practice mindfulness. Not the most easiest thing when you are feeling disgruntled, but it does help to create change.

Look at everything with a sense of impermanence. That person you last talked to? Yeah, they are going to be gone one day. So are you. That bed you slept on? Well, to be honest it’s going to be in the dump one day. One day that house you live in is going to be gone. Sounds harsh, but it’s true.

Everything – every, single thing is impermanent – and when you look at things with that in mind, not only does it help you to have a greater appreciation for even the crappiest of moments… but it can also create a state of urgency to make change if you are unhappy. Currently, I’m not happy about my tight pants.

Life is short. Don’t wait for a flip of a calendar. Carpe diem. Be grateful.

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